#Premarital Sexual Behavior#Right#Wrong#

I am just started a new semester at Berjaya University College Hospitality (Berjaya UCH) and it is my fifth semester.

I am taking five subjects and one of the subject is Contempory Ethics and Cooperate Citizenship.

Before I join the ethics class, my imagination of ethics is we have to memories a lot of theory about ethics such as do not throw rubbish on the floor or do not burn any rubbish contaminate the environment. However, I missed the first class of ethics.

When I join the second class of ethics, I just realise ethics is more about discussion with other classmates and lecturer. Lecturer would not giving you accurate answer as right or wrong.

It is because different people has different perception to the specific topic.

It is an interesting class that I can observe different peoples have difference ideas coming out when the lecturer asking some questions.

I just finish holidays and start a new semester, many college friends went for travel in their holidays.

One of my friend went to Taiwan and he gave me a condom as souvenir.

The condom let me notice a topic about premarital sexual behaviour.

Nowadays, premarital sexual is very common in the social, even though premarital sexual is not acceptable in some country, such as Malaysia.

It is because Malaysia is a Islam country that have conservatism behaviour.

Some people said can have premarital sexual but it must be a safe sex with condom.

The question is, it that really acceptable to have premarital sexual between the couple?

The common story in the real life is couple have premarital sexual without safely measures, the girl accidently pregnant and the couple have to married because of the baby. After married, the couples start to work hard earn money for the baby. However, the couples will start to argue with any issues because they feel other side is very annoying and is not the gradually deduce the true love from other side. It is because the main reason they argue is their baby. At the end, they choose to divorce because they do not like other side. In this situation, the biggest victims is the baby. The baby have to face that he or she is born in a broken family and might have a bad childhood.

Let's listen a story! It is a real story from my high school friend.

I was studied in Kuen Cheng Girl's High School, so I have many female friends in my life.

I still remember one day of six year ago, I received a wedding invitation card from my high school friend, she was going to married!

I cannot believe the girl that same age with me going to marry, she was just 19 years old! On that moment, my other friends realise the reason that the girl going to marry because she was pregnant. 2years later, as I mentioned in the upper part, my friend divorce with her husband because of they have many argument and unhappiness.

When I heard this case, I started to thinking about the situation of my high school friend. Does she think about the outcome of having premarital sexual? The outcome might have a baby after premarital sexual. How if the husband knows she was pregnant but do not want to be held responsible to her? The further and future question is does the couples economics can afford any fees for the children such as milk powder or education fees? How if the couples are unemployed persons?

Normally, people knows their cannot afford the baby educated fees but they still consider to born the baby. It is because they have the basic compassion. I know the basic compassion is very important to human, suppose before the couples have to think about the outcome of premarital sexual.

In addition, one of the fact might be happen is the couples cannot afford the economic crisis for the baby, so they might decide abandon baby on the roadside or orphanage or public area. The more serious cases are the couples might sell or kill their own baby because they do not want to held on responsible.

In another case, if the couples have economics crisis or other issues that cannot let people know their have baby, they will dumping baby. However, baby dumping is a social crisis and has a chronic increase as many cases are occurring in Malaysian society. The baby dumping refers to discarding or leaving alone, for an extended period of time, a child younger than 12 months of age in a public or private setting with the intent to dispose of the child. Based on Bukit Aman Police Headquarters statistics found a total of 580 babies were found dumped between year 2000 to 2006. This number of cases increase every year where as much as 65 baby dumping cases has increased to 83 cases in the year 2006.

Although these are all imagination questions but is really related to premarital sexual. WHY peoples still want to have premarital sexual before married without any safety measure? It shows the couples do not have the personal responsibility. In my opinion, I am strongly disagree premarital sexual behaviour. It is unethical to personal, the baby and the society. Actually premarital sex is forbidden in Malaysia because there are an ISLAM country. If get catch in Malaysia will get the penalties including up to three years in prison, a fine of up to 5,000 ringgit, or six strokes of the cane. It is a serious penalty law in Malaysia.

My recommend to those couple who really need the premarital sexual, please use condom. It is because condom can help the society to reduce baby and avoid sad case happen.  The words that I really like is "Having sex after marriage is safer and it can reduce the abortion and baby dumping rate. It also helps us be more responsible and not to have sex just to satisfy our lust." Be an ethics person, because you have the personal responsibility to yourself and the society.

 

*The condom as souvenir form TAIWAN. Safe sex. :)

*Baby Dumping. Please care every life especially the babies. Cheers!